A lot of my friends ask me how do I stay so positive despite all that has been thrown my way. Here's a little background about myself...
I was a teen mom at 16 and by the time I was 21 I had three daughters who were five and under. I was in an abusive relationship both mentally and physically, and a high school drop out. Needless to say, my future did not look bright. I also grew up in the projects of one of the toughest urban cities at the time. But here is what kept me alive, sane, and positive...it was my mind, my thoughts, and my self-communication. I always felt there was better for me. I could feel I deserved better. I always had a pretty healthy communication within myself. I remember specifically one day asking myself, "How can you be a better mom?" Well the answer to that was to take care of myself first and remove myself from the abusive and negative environment I was in. I knew I could no longer deplete more of my energy by staying in such a toxic relationship. I needed to save that energy to take better care of my girls. When my ex started becoming violent (after my third daughter), it wasn't long after when I decided to leave. However, I understand everyone has their own timing.
Of course, I had and still have moments of insecurity but what I have realized about myself is that I never gave up on me. I have always managed to talk myself out of feeling sorry and dwelling. Again, this comes from having faith that I deserve all the beauty this world has to offer. Since I was young, I have always tried to support myself in the darkest moments, understanding that it wouldn't last much longer. I have built a healthy friendship within me and created a foundation of mental strength. However, this relationship I have with myself is always on-going. I practice self-love and support everyday. Even when I don't feel inspired or worthy of my own love. I push through and force myself to become aware of my thoughts and to turn it in the direction that is in my favor.
Okay, so there I go rambling again. Let me get back to how I stay positive besides the self-talk and friendship I have created within myself...
I have a healthy social life. Along with being a great mom, I am also a great friend and have a bunch of wonderful supportive girlfriends. I remember when I was 18 with two kids and zero friends, I felt really lonely. I had no one to share my interests with or just talk to about anything. That day I was sitting on my bed holding one of the girls and appreciating their life but also saying how I wanted friends. So I sent a special request out to the universe for friends (not even knowing about the Law of Attraction at the time). It wasn't shortly after when the universe answered me. I met a group of great girls at work and this has been almost two decades ago, and we're still going strong. Throughout the years, I continue to build great friendships, and I am always grateful for each encounter.
I balance my life with activities that involve my friends, family, and just solely me. I balance my life out by spending time with my kids, as well as my girlfriends, and since I am still single, with dating every now and then. I also always include some alone time for myself by staying in all weekend when the kids are away or just not answering my phone for a day or two and doing my own thing. Every aspect of my life is important to me and it is in my best interest to pay attention to each area of my life. Of course my children will always come first but I realize that it's the other areas in my life that help me become a better mom. When I take time out for myself whether through my friends, dating, or alone time, I am more patient and pleasant to be around. My kids and I can both appreciate that. My friends are important to me because I have such a healthy group of women. As friends, they support me and reassure me that I'm doing fine as a mom, and overall human being. My kids are very important to me because they help keep me grounded and help me understand not to take life so seriously. And the men I have met in my life have helped me understand how to better treat myself by what they did or didn't do for me.
A little about me...
I'm learning how to look at everything with love, even if it seems impossible, like rush hour traffic. I want to share my journey of self-love so that others may want to emulate and pass it on into the universe. Ohh...and sometimes people call me Suzie.